The power of our words (and the right kind of involvement)

Parenting is a hard job. There is so much to consider, from what to feed your children to how much sleep they need to what kind of sunscreen to buy. Needless to say, it can feel like a very overwhelming job, and likely the hardest you will ever have. Luckily, there are a multitude (sometimes too many) of helpful people and resources available. Personally, I have always been a bit overwhelmed by the number of books available (starting at pregnancy) and have been guided by advice someone gave me years ago which is to find the book or author that sits right with you and stick with that one.  As your children grow and develop independence and strong(er) minds and wills, the job of parenting can feel even more challenging. The rewards are immense and invaluable, but the day to day can be difficult. 

Being a parent often means being a facilitator in the lives of our children. Our children are at the center and our job is to put the necessary pieces in place so that our children will (hopefully) thrive, flourish and be happy. They are in the driver's seat, and we are the mechanics. We can't make our children eat, but we can put healthy food on their plate. We can't make them work, but we can support them and create the environment for positive learning to take place. Not to overwhelm you with even more advice (but you are reading this blog, so must be looking for some guidance!), consider these ideas and articles on supporting your child in their development of responsibility and independence:

• Self-talk- we all do it. Work on positive self-talk yourself. Discuss with and model it for your children. The Way You Talk to Yourself Matters 
•  "The way we talk with our children becomes their inner voice." - Peggy O'Mara

• Trust what your teachers are trying to do for your child. They spend 8 hours a day with your child, and at times likely see a different side of him/her. They are professionals educator and are very knowledgeable about appropriate academic and behavioral expectations for children in that age range. Trust. Intellectual and Academic Support

• Don't talk negatively about your child's teachers in front of him/her. It undermines them and sets up an internal conflict for your child.

• Try not to put your own frustrations or issues on your child, particularly when there is an opportunity for your child to grow.

• When safe to do so, let natural consequences occur for your child. Resist the temptation to always do for and save them. Look for opportunities for your child to exercise age appropriate independence and responsibility.  How to Raise an Adult

• Help your children develop their goals- not yours. Five Ways to Help Your Kid Have a Great School Year

It was great to see those of you that made it to see Dr. Lisa Miller talk this week talk about the role of spirituality. It was a really interesting and engaging presentation. Mark your calendars for the next speaker- Stefanie Thomas from the Seattle Police Department will present on Internet Safety, Nov. 16th at 7:00pm. 

Until next week, take care!